Asstronomical Ways to enjoy Anal
Our last article on Anal Sex certainly proved popular, with lots of comments and questions from those who indulge regularly, those who are a definite no, and those who were curious and would like to learn more. So, this time we're focusing on those who are new to backdoor loving with some helping tips on how to get started...
1. Try it for the right reason - be inquisitive for yourself and not merely for your partner. Doing it for the right reason will help you relax and having an open mind often means having an open anus.
2. Relaxing your PC muscles - is the anal version of doing Kegels - the more relaxed you are the more likely you are going to enjoy it (just like vaginal sex). So ensure you’re feeling relaxed and sexy and that you're not merely doing it for your man or for validation of your femininity (which is something that can only be obtained from within you and not from any man).
3. Use a condom - whether you’re monogamous or not, protect yourself from contracting some nasty STIs. Even with the condom on - never double dip (going from anal to vagina). For those in the know, this can result in poogash. Bet you’re dying to try that.
4. The right lube is important - the skin of the anus is very thin and delicate. Unlike the vagina, the anus isn’t capable of providing its own natural lube so using the right lube is vital. Thicker Anal specific lubes won’t dry out as quickly as thin water-based lubes. Some people swear by Vaseline but personally I wouldn’t put that anywhere near my butt as it is a petroleum-based product. Desensitising gels such as Pjur Analyse Me! Anal Comfort Serum are also available although not being able to feel anything is not ideal either as you’ll have no way of gauging if there’s pleasure or pain. Failing to use lubricant, may lead to tears and tearing the inside of someone’s bum is incredibly impolite - so lube up!
5. Go slow and gentle - anal sex, especially for novices, must be approached with patience. The penetration will feel much deeper than with vaginal sex so it’s something the penis must ease into. Generally speaking the head of the penis is the widest part so getting the tip in will probably hurt the most.
6. It will feel like it, but it won’t be it - initially you will definitely feel like you are pooping but chances are you won’t be. This won’t stop you from turning around trying to spot anything brown that ought not to be there, but if you ensure your bowels are empty beforehand you really don’t have much to worry about.
7. Toys do help - hetero, bi and homosexual men and women are having a lot of fun with anal sex toys such as anal beads, butt plugs and strap-ons. It’s also a fantastic and popular way for straight men to explore anal stimulation without questioning their sexuality. You could use these neat sex toys whilst masturbating or during sexual play. Starting with small butt plugs and working your way up to the actual thing can help.
Many women find it easier to orgasm whilst having double penetration (DP) - inserting a smaller dildo or a G-spot toy in the vagina during anal sex can be incredibly erotic and enjoyable. The sensation is heavenly - I am officially qualified to vouch for that.
8. It generally does get easier and better with time - certain sexual adventures can be uncomfortable for beginners and may take time and practice till they result in pleasure. Massaging your anus from time to time might be a good way to relax the area.
After all that, maybe it’s just not up your (ahem) alley - it shouldn’t take you too many times before you realise whether anal sex is your thang or not.
What would be your #9? Let me know in the comments below!
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Written by Maggie May
Maggie May is a sexologist and a writer. She is a lover of all things sensual and sexual.