How to gift a sex toy
The festive season is a wonderful time of year but selecting the perfect gift for everyone on your list can be overwhelming. Compound this with the challenge of giving something intimate – it can be downright terrifying. That’s why we’ve put together a guide of everything you need to know when giving your friend, partner, or lover a sex toy (aka the gift that keeps on giving).
Consider the receiver
If you're thinking about giving someone a sex toy as a gift, start by considering the nature of your relationship with that person.
How close are you? Have you ever discussed sex? If it's a work colleague, distant relative, or someone you've just met, it might be worth reconsidering whether a sex toy is a good idea. However, if you're in an intimate relationship or they're a close friend that you openly discuss your sexual proclivities with, then they are likely to be an eager – and happy – recipient.
Gauge their interest
Though an element of surprise and delight is fun when it comes to gifting, it’s best to test their level of interest in a sex toy beforehand. While we firmly believe that sex toys are for everyone, it doesn’t mean that everyone is ready for them – and that’s okay.
If you’re wanting to gift a toy to a friend who’s never bought or used one, strike up a general conversation about sex toys and share your favourites. If they don’t seem overly enthusiastic, or you sense they’re uncomfortable, play it safe and stick to a scented candle.
If it’s for a sexual partner, one of the easiest ways to introduce the topic is by working it into your dirty talk. Try talking about a sensation they enjoy and discuss if adding a toy could elevate the experience. Beginners’ kits, gift sets, or games are also great gifting options for novices.
Choose the toy
A classic vibrator is rarely a polarising option, but something like a butt plug, impact toy or even a stroker can be unpredictable. Opt for something approachable, universally popular, non-phallic or designed for beginners if they’re new to the sex toy scene.
Keep in mind that kinks and sexual preferences vary widely, so consider that your gift could end up making the recipient feel pressured to try something that they’re not into, or ready to explore. Communication is key.
Sexy add-ons
Often some accoutrements are required for the ultimate experience with a sex toy. For any penetration toy, such as a butt plug, you’re going to want specialised lube, and you’ll get the most out of a vibrator or stroker when paired with a quality water-based lube too, which is safe to use with any toy. You could also gift a lockable bag for discreet storage and travel, or a toy cleaner. Check to see if the sex toy you’re giving requires batteries, and if so, consider giving them (or some spares) along with the gift.
Location, location, location
You’ve found the perfect toy for a special someone, and you can’t wait to give it to them, but the where and when of gift-giving is crucial – we don’t recommend a family picnic at the local park or busy restaurant.
If you’re among a close group of friends or family who openly discuss sex, it’s probably okay to gift the sex toy in front of others. However, if you’re surrounded by strangers, it could be uncomfortable, or even embarrassing, for the recipient.
Read the room and make sure the gifting is done with respect. Who knows, it may even provide the perfect setting for an immediate test drive.