When did Pegging become popular?

More recently, it has received exposure on popular TV show Broad City in 2015 which featured millennial New Yorker Abi Jacobson, where she pegged her female partner.  In the very popular Deadpool movie there is a sex montage where Ryan Reynolds is pegged by his girlfriend.

At the 2021 Met Gala, Cara Delevinge wore a “Peg the Patriarchy” vest as part of the me-too movement.

 

What is Pegging?

Pegging by official definition is a sex position in which a hetro/cis woman wears a strap on dildo to penetrate her partners anus. Typically, the partner is also hetro/cis but from my personal experience they can also be bi.

But don’t let your sexual orientation limit your exploration. Pegging isn’t limited as everyone has an anus, and almost everyone can find a harness that fits and can try out how pegging feels for them and their partner.

For a partner with a penis there are hollow dildos available that also allow you to cum through the end. This can allow greater flexibility with the time that they can pleasure their partner and is another way to experiment with anal play if they are hesitant to anally insert their penis.

Pegging can be rough and domineering, or it can be sensual and soft. It all depends on how you want to play. Why not give it a go to add another dimension to your play?

Let me let you in on my personal experience….

My husband is bi and enjoys anal penetration and we have tried pegging a few times. He has had a prostate massage which gave him a great orgasm but unfortunately, we haven’t got him there yet with pegging. Practice makes perfect right… so we will have to try again soon.

We have tried with a plain old dildo and also with the fancier strapless vibrating model which I enjoyed for the vibration on my clit. He liked both equally as he wasn’t fussed about the vibration. We will have to experiment more with some different dildo sizes and positions to see which hits the right spot for him.

 

Reasons you should try Pegging

Here are just a couple of the benefits of strapping on a dildo and pleasuring your partner:

1. Big pleasure for your man
   Anal penetration for a male means stimulation of the prostate gland which can be extremely pleasurable and even lead to a very powerful orgasm.  Many men describe a prostate orgasm as being more intense than they feel during penile masturbation or vaginal sex. Some even say they feel it from their head to their toes with an intensity three times as fantabulous!
   
   Prostate orgasms are also great for men’s health and can assist with prevention or treatment of prostate issues. Many doctors even recommend prostate stimulation.
   
   The prostate is a walnut sized gland often described as the male “g-spot”. It is a round nub that sits just under the bladder about 2 inches inside the anus and is hence easily stimulated by anal penetration. It may take some practice and experimentation to hit just the right spot - but it certainly seems it’s well worth the effort!
   
   
2.  Power play for the person with the strap on and dildo
   The benefits of pegging go beyond the physical. There are many psychological effects that come into play for both partners that can really rev up the experience.
   
   Pegging reverses the norms of male/female partner play with the female now in full control of the penetrative experience. This power and control can be a huge turn on for many women who seldom have this type of control with other penetrative sex. I have to admit this turn on by the reversal of roles is one reason that I was keen to give it a try! Women can feel extremely sexy when they put on some hot lingerie and strap on a dildo and the power play can give them a big rush.
   
   Pegging also results in the man or person being pegged being more vulnerable and therefore requires them to place significant trust in their partner. This exchange of trust is exciting and fulfilling for the partner performing penetration. Some men also enjoy being submissive - think the dominatrix - and surrendering total control to another person can be a big turn on.
   
   Women express that when their partner understands the skill of receiving that they feel more seen, understood, and appreciated in the relationship. Women may also enjoy the clitoral stimulation of the dildo during pegging and can get extra pleasure knowing the enhanced feelings that their partner gains with a prostate orgasm.

 

Communication is important before you try Pegging

When you are thinking of trying anything new in the bedroom, communication with your partner is extremely important! This is especially true with pegging as some may feel uncomfortable or confronted by the prospect of being anally penetrated. 

Begin by explaining to your partner why pegging interests you and your reasons for wanting to give it a try. You may have to explain the concept of pegging to them as not everyone is familiar with the term. Make sure you ask them how they feel about it and give them some to consider and process their emotions around pegging.

Being able to talk openly with your partner about what you like to try in the bedroom is so important to building a strong relationship. It may feel awkward starting the discussion at first, especially as kinky sex may be considered as taboo by some. But that is definitely not the case! It’s healthy to experiment and try new things. Don’t let stereotyping or other opinions stop you from expanding ways to increase your sexual pleasure with your partner.

 

Finding the right equipment

To start experimenting with pegging play you will need to purchase a harness and dildo of appropriate size. Ensure the harness fits well and will not slip. A smaller dildo is best to get started and is safest when made from medical grade silicone.

You also have the choice of a standard dildo, a vibrating dildo, or a strap-less model such as the Happy Rabbit Strap Less Strap On that is designed to also stimulate the wearer. We also have full beginners pegging sets available like the New Comer’s Strap on Set.

As with any anal play you must ensure plenty of good lubrication by using a quality water-based lube. There are also lubes available the include gentle anal relaxants that help make anal sex more comfortable. You can further investigate anal lubes on our website.

 

Tips for getting started

1. Make sure you prepare for anal penetration by emptying your bowels prior to play and doing some extra clean up using a douche or enema.  Mess happens down there and can be unpleasant and embarrassing if you don’t prepare well. Hop in the shower before play to ensure cleanliness and any odours are eliminated.
   
   
2. If your partner is new to anal play make sure to ease them into it gently by applying lots of lube and starting with some anal foreplay with fingers or a small butt plug. Stroke, tease, tickle and massage the anus to make sure you are both relaxed.
   
   
3. Get the strap on ready and apply plenty of lube. Only begin penetration when you are both ready to start. Ease in slowly at first and let the person being penetrated to have some control over depth and speed. Make sure you keep up communication and check in to see how they are feeling and what feels good for them.
   
   
4. Positions that work well for pegging are either for the receiver to bend over doggy style, or to lie on their back with legs raised. Try these out and see which works best.
   
   
5. Using a condom on the dildo can assist with easy clean up. Make sure that after use you use a toy cleaner to clean and sanitize your toys ready for the next time you play. If you plan to use the dildo for vaginal penetration later then the clean-up is especially important as flora in the anus can cause UTI’s or fungal infections for us ladies. 

If you haven’t yet tried pegging, then don’t wait to get communication started with your partner!  It could open new doors of intensity and closeness in your relationship and really rev things up.  Make sure before you try that you are both clear on expectations to ensure that it’s the best experience possible. Get some new toys and start experimenting!

Written by,
Katy Q