From one Big Girl to Another

Women of all sizes deserve pleasure. I've learned that you may not be everyone's cup of tea, but there are plenty of men and women out there that appreciate and celebrate the fuller figure. But does being bigger make sex harder? Perhaps. Sometimes. It's all about finding what works best for you and your partner. So I thought I'd share some helpful tips for the larger, luscious ladies in the house!

Look sexy, feel sexy
At AdultShop our lingerie comes in sizes 6 to 26, because we know that sexy doesn't stop at a size 10. In fact, we call our plus size lingerie 'Queen Size', because we know royalty when we see it! So whether you like something loose fitting like a chemise or baby doll. Or you you want a figure hugging teddy or body-stocking, we've got you covered....or technically uncovered, lol. For that little bit extra, we also have accessories like opera length gloves, masks, bunny ears, chokers and body jewellery....for when you really want to put on a show.

Comfort is key.
In my humble opinion, good sex is when for the most part you are comfortable. Find positions that work for you, not against you. Some firm favourites are:

• Missionary.
  A great position, especially if you prop a pillow under your bottom, allowing for deeper penetration.
  
  
• Edge of the bed.
  Him standing, you laying on your back with your bottom right on the edge of the bed, with you feet on his chest or shoulders. This allows for deep penetration whilst him taking the weight of your lower half.
  
  
• Doggy-style.
  A great position, allowing you to rock back and forth, or rest your lower half on the bed, while poking your rear end high. Or you can use a position pad for more comfort. I like the Fetish Fantasy Ultra Inflatable Position Master.
  
  
• Side by side.
  A luxurious spooning position allowing for easy access to all erogenous zones.
  
  
• Reverse cowgirl.
  Woman on top, but facing his feet. This position helps bigger bellies not getting in the way and allows for easy up and down movements.
  
  
• Pool sex.
  Feeling weightless in the water is amazing, however buoyancy can be tricky for us larger mermaids, lol. Use the side of the pool to allow for vigorous thrusting. Don't forget to bring a thick silicone lube like Eros Bodyglide, as water itself is a poor lubricant...ouch!
  
  
• Table sex.
  Being bent over the table while your partner takes you from behind.

But don't limit yourself to these positions, don't be afraid to try new things and remember that sex burns 3.6 calories per minute! Now that's a work out.

Want to get kinky?
Big bottoms are wonderful for a little BDSM. More surface area equals for more space for punishment, (consenting adults only of course). But start out slow, plump areas tend to be more painful and certainly bruise much easier than muscle. Perhaps start with a soft flogger and always have a safe word. (Fun Fact: If you dip the ends of your flogger in icy water, it increases both the sting and the shock factor)

Generally having larger wrists, when buying metal cuffs, I choose ankle cuffs as they are exactly the same as wrist cuffs, just larger. Otherwise, cuffs with velcro straps are a great way to find the perfect fit.

Spreader bars are another fun option for the bedroom. They are great if you have heavier legs as your partner can hold the bar in front of him during penetration and therefore taking the weight off you.

Thigh slings are also wonderful to effortlessly hold your legs up, leaving your hands free. My current favourite is the SportSheets Saffron Thigh Sling. It has a padded neck pillow with adjustable straps to the thigh loops.

We have beginner kits, impact products, gags, blindfolds, restraints and so so much more.

Rolling solo?
While there is no size tag on toys, (hallelujah), I've noticed there are some toys that stand out more for ladies with curves.

Thrusting toys are another winner. If you have a lovely big tummy, sometimes reaching your ideal spot can be tricky. A thrusting toy provides you with vibrating penetration without you having to move the toy, essentially it does all the hard work for you.

A long handled wand such as the Lelo Smart Wand Large is again perfect for reaching your clitoris.

Another great clitoral stimulator is the Womanizer Premium. This model has a nice long handle and as the toy works on air technology, you just place it on the clitoris, there is no need to move the toy once it is in position, just lay back and enjoy the ride.

Now I've just scratched the surface of the toys that are available. Why not pop into your local AdultShop store and check out our range.

Confidence is key!
I think that most people will agree that the sexiest trait in a person is confidence. Love yourself, love your body, it's unique and beautiful....you wouldn't be here without it.

Wishing you happy thoughts and orgasms to all!

Written by Kristal
Sales Assistant of 6 years
AdultShop Albany Store