P is for Pleasure! Here’s How to Stimulate the Prostate

How to Get Things Going…
Using a vibrator, you can gentle massage and play with the area without being too invasive. You can also engage in other sexual acts, like masturbation, or being intimate with a partner beforehand, which is strongly advised. This is because the prostate swells once you’re aroused.

Different Ways to Stimulate the P-Spot
Once you’re warmed up, you could either take the scenic route, that is stimulating the perineum (the skin between the scrotum and the anus), or you could go for it via the anus.

If you’re new to the whole thing, we suggest pleasuring the area first without attempting to find the P-spot, then going for gold.

P-Spot Stimulation from the Inside
When you stimulate the prostate from the inside, you’re going to feel a sensation similar to needing to pee… and this is a good thing. If this sounds uncomfortable or worrying to you, go to the toilet beforehand for peace of mind.

To start stimulating the prostate from the inside, you should get into a comfortable position, like lying on your back with your legs apart. You could also be on all-fours if this is something you’d prefer.

Grab your poison (a vibrator, your finger, etc.) and make sure it’s well-lubricated. Go slow to ease into it, using shallow stimulation. This will help to relax the anal muscles.

Then, when it comes to penetration, you can start with one finger and work your way up to either two fingers, a small butt plug or slim sex toy. Your rectum needs time and patience to stretch, you don’t want to pull out the big guns at first.

Stimulating the P-Spot with a Finger
If you’re not interested in using a sex toy, one or two fingers inserted about an inch deep is enough to stimulate the prostate. In that case, you’ll know you’ve reached the prostate when you feel something that’s textured and walnut-shaped.

Once found, use the famous ‘come hither’ sign or simply stroke the area with the fingertip.

Tip: Becoming fully erect before starting means you’re sufficiently aroused, which will work in your favour.

Stimulating the Prostate with a Prostate Massager
Using a prostate massager is a more intense way in which to stimulate the P-spot, and is more user-friendly, especially for beginners, than doing it with a finger.

We recommend going for a prostate massager with a curve, as it will be easier to insert and will conform to the natural shape of passage.

A Step-by-Step Guide to Prostate Stimulation with a Prostate Massager
When it comes to using a prostate massager, here’s a step-by-step guide:

• It’s recommended to find your P-spot beforehand using your finger, which will guide you when using a toy.
• Once aroused and erect, place your prostate massager towards the prostate, the spot you’ve found with your finger.
• If your prostate massager vibrates, you can turn it on.
• For even more pleasure, you can use the toy and masturbate simultaneously.
• When you’re ready to come, apply more pressure on the prostate using a circular motion.

7 Useful Tips Before Going for the P-Spot
There are seven important things to remember before you start hitting the P-spot:

• Trim your fingernails
• Always use lubrication
• Enhance the experience with either a P-spot sex toy or a butt plug
• Don’t wear any jewellery, like rings
• Empty the bowels before playtime (or use an anal douche)
• Use a prostate massager that has a flared base so it can be removed easily
• Choose a prostate massager that’s smooth, as one with ridges could cause tears

Our Top Picks! 3 Highly Rated Prostate Massagers
Long are the days that sex toys for men are a taboo! At the end of the day, if it brings you pleasure, then we say go for it!

With that, here are our top picks when it comes to highly rated prostate massagers:

LELO Bruno™ Prostate Massager
With six vibration settings, Bruno has the ability to give you intense prostate orgasms. It’s been given a rating of 4.2 out of 5, and some have even admitted that it works well to stimulate the G-spot in women too.

Vector by We-Vibe
This prostate and perineum massager is gentle on pressure and comes with ten rumbling vibration patterns. It has two motors, an adjustable head, and a flexible base made for comfort. It’s received 4.2 out of 5 stars which is great, and can be controlled via a 4-button remote control or the We-Connect app.

LELO Hugo™ Remote Controlled Prostate Massager
Yet another treat from LELO, the Hugo Remote Controlled Prostate Massager has a rating of 4.4 out of 5, and comes with two vibrating motors in the base and the tip. It has 8 settings, and can be controlled from eight metres away for some fun couples play.

See? Getting off via the prostate isn’t so intimidating, now is it? We suggest putting your ego aside, and getting on board with the P spot! You’ll thank us later.

Written by Helena Lorimer